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The Paradox of Protection: Why 'Not Feeling' Keeps Us Stuck

In my last post, we explored why understanding our story intellectually often isn't enough to stop the physical 'bracing' of anxiety or trauma. But knowing that we need a 'bottom-up' approach usually leads to a much bigger, quieter question: 'If I actually stop and feel what I’ve been avoiding, will it break me?' It is a completely valid fear. We spend so much of our lives perfecting the art of pushing pain away because, for a long time, that was our only way to survive. Today, I want to pull back the curtain on the great paradox of healing—how the very things we instinctively push away are the ones that keep us stuck, and what it actually looks like to safely navigate those feelings in the therapy room.

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